"Always say good night to your child, even if they are already asleep!" – Jackson Brown Jr.
Giving birth to a child is a natural process, but becoming a father needs guidance from elders and experts. To add to the complexity are the various doctrines that are sometimes even contradictory. In order not to complicate the situation further, I would like first of all to recognize that each child is different and so are their needs. To help our child who is special and unique, we, as parents, are responsible for providing this child a safe haven. This safe shelter guarantees the following to the baby: • The basic services of life, such as food, clothing, shelter, heat and hygiene. • Security and security needs, including protection and stability. • Need for belonging and love, also expressed in the form of kisses. hugs, love, attention, etc. • The needs of esteem include rewards and appreciations that include the need to be called a good child or a good girl. This safe haven helps develop a child's creative ability to become a mature, self-sufficient, healthy adult.
The attention and environment it provides shape your child's brain development for life.-Erik Erikson
Tips for parents to have a healthy relationship with their children: • Smile and look children in the eyes while greeting them • Spend time with the child. The amount matters. During this time, sit on the floor, listen and establish eye contact. • Use touch to comfort: it is appropriate to hug, gently touch a shoulder or hold hands. • Help children learn the appropriate social-emotional language (how close they are standing, how to use eye contact, when to touch, how to touch). • Remember that there are many styles to form and maintain relationships: a shy child is not a detached child. If you feel that a child is having difficulty engaging others, help us facilitate this by actively including or associating it with another child who has a similar temperament.
"Playing is the most natural method of self-healing that childhood offers" -Erik Erikson
As the needs of each child may be different from the others, similarly, he / she also has different needs at different stages of development. A baby up to the age of 1 year completely depends on the caregiver. By feeding, cleaning, comforting, and caring in a timely manner, he / she learns to trust the parents and trusts them in the hope that the need is met. But if the needs are not met, the baby will distrust everything and see people as unpredictable, unreliable and dangerous. Therefore, this upbringing includes being available to the baby as a consistent, reliable and dependable caregiver who will meet all of your needs. A child from 1 to 3 years old begins to explore his body and the spaces that surround it. Parents also begin training for this child's bathroom that seeks autonomy and self-control. The autonomous child becomes sure that he / she can handle the problem for himself, otherwise he / she would always be doubting his / her own potential and could be ashamed of himself / herself. At this stage, the child should have some sense of control over his life and should have his opinion about the activities of his daily life. The preprimary school child between the ages of 3 and 3 starts, explores and discovers. . By following the child and leaving room for exploration, the child develops courage and a sense of independence. The fault found by parents makes children guilty and confused. Parents at this stage should be very encouraging for the child and for all his constructive initiates. At the age of 5, a child who goes to school begins to learn. The sense of achievement and achievements ensure a sense of competence or the child would feel inferior. The encouragement of parents and teachers is a very important ingredient at this stage. Adolescence is the most difficult phase for parents and children. Adolescence is a time of experimentation in search of identity among their peers. Here the child's body is maturing, but the adolescent is not fully matured intellectually. Companions become more important, which further complicates the situation when parents feel dethroned and experience a challenge to their authority.
The sense of identity provides the ability to experience oneself as something that has continuity and similarity, and act accordingly.- Erik H. Erikson
Tips for parents of teenagers: • As parents, once again, it is important to be a reliable guide resource. • Appreciate all constructive initiates of the adolescent. • Do not ridicule the teenager. • Keep in mind that a decision may be wrong, but not the adolescent as an individual. • The house must have rules of rules clearly defined and modeled by adults. • There should always be space for communication and negotiations. • It is important to find win-win solutions for differences in the relationship.
As children reach adolescence, they need more than ever to take care of them. Adolescence is not about letting go. It's about holding on during a very bumpy ride.-Ron Taffel
The successful navigation of the adolescent stage gives rise to a healthy, mature, loving and safe adult. In today's time, parenting is an even greater challenge with both parents working and, therefore, there is a lack of time for both. Actually, it is the quality of time that matters and not just the amount of time.
Some research about working parents:
• No scientific evidence indicates that children are harmed when their mothers work. • An emotionally well-adjusted, well-loved and well-groomed child will thrive regardless of whether or not the mother works outside the home. • Parents are more proactive in double-career couples. • A mother who successfully handles an external job and paternity provides a role model for her child. • The daughters of working mothers aspire to have a paid job. Estimate. • Daily care should be chosen with care to avoid a negative impact.
Children have a different spelling for the word love, we spell it l-o-v-e, spell it t-i-m-e.
Tips for working couples:
Inside you: Create limits between work and home: avoid "overflow". Make time for yourself. Eat with GUILT (remember the research) Avoid falling into the "superwoman syndrome" Ask for support Allow people to help let their family do things "their way" Learn to let go. Prioritize
Communicate with your spouse: clarify roles and expectations. Divide the tasks. Plan for emergencies. Be flexible Excuse me Appreciate and thank often. Do fun things together.
If being a father is love: • Love does not derive from punishments, but from forgiveness, acceptance and hugs. • Love is positive, encouraging, open, sincere and communicative. • Love implies discipline. • Love makes us admit our mistakes willingly and make improvements without damaging relationships.
Children love and want to be loved and much prefer the joy of achievement to the triumph of hateful failure. Do not confuse a child with his symptoms. -Erik Erikson
To summarize as parents, our role is to provide our child with a loving and safe relationship. A safe and healthy attachment that will help the child to become a mature, loving and healthy adult.
Read the full article "Parenting" that is written by Ms. Deepali Bedi at Practo.com here: https://www.practo.com/healthfeed/parenting-7906/post
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